Achieve Perfection by Redefining Perfect!

I spent a good portion of my life trying to achieve perfection in one form or another. But all of that changed one day when I found myself waiting for a friend in a quiet Irish Pub on a Sunday afternoon.

See, this was not your average run-of-the-mill Irish Pub, but a “Thank God I’m Irish-American Pub,” with pictures of presidents and historical documents lining the walls. And as I waited for my friend, I noticed a large copy of the United States Constitution hanging on the wall in front of me.

Seeing this as a sign that I was meant to reread the Constitution, I ordered a pint and began with the preamble, “We the people of the United States in order to form a more perfect union.” But then I stopped and asked myself, “More perfect? Is that even possible?”

Not realizing I was thinking aloud, an old Irishman sitting at the other end of the bar looked up from his Sunday paper and replied, “It all depends on how you define perfect.”

Seeing that I was not quite understanding him, he continued and said, ““The framers were visionaries, lad, forward thinkers. They didn’t see perfection as finite or unattainable but rather recognized the perfection of the moment at hand and the promise of future growth and possibility, leaving plenty of room for more perfect. Understand?”

I dutifully nodded and said, “Thank You.”

He nodded back with a slight grin on his face, took a sip of his whiskey and settled back into his morning paper as if we had never had this conversation. I, in turn, read the remainder of the Constitution over a second pint, paid my tab and thanked the old man once again for the civics lesson.

My friend never did show up, but I was now able to see the perfection in that.

Copyright 2007 Rob Gruber Life Coach

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Let Go to Grow

On one of the few days it rained in LA, I decided to take the Number 2 bus to meet a friend. By the time the bus came, I was completely soaked. The newspaper over my head and the palm tree above were no match for mother nature.

As I stepped into the damp and musty bus, I felt the tension of the standing-room only crowd. I paid my fare and found a place to stand next to a well-dressed, old man that was seated comfortably with his eyes closed as he held a cane in one hand and an umbrella in the other, making him the only dry passenger. At the next abrupt stop he opened his eyes, sat up and looked to the front of the bus.

“We’re at Genesee,” I said. He nodded and continued to look forward.

A moment or two later, the last passenger boarded, a beautiful but frail, elderly woman that was having a little trouble getting on the bus with her broken umbrella. Grumbling from the back of the bus could be heard as she struggled to quickly pay her fare and secure a safe place to stand as the bus driver abruptly closed the door and pulled away from the stop. And stand she did, at least for a bit, as the perfectly healthy passengers clung to their seats dedicated to the elderly and disabled as if they owned them. Unitil something amazing happened. That sleepy, old man sprung up best he could, cleared his throat and said, “Excuse me, my dear, this seat is open.”

Recognizing his caring soul and the fact that he needed a cane to stand, she replied, “That’s so sweet, but you don’t have to give up your seat to me.”

The elderly man replied, “My dear lady, it was not mine to begin with.

Taken by his chivalry, the elderly lady smiled, took the seat and said “Thank you.”

Nothing was said by them or anyone else on the bus until a few stops later, when the elderly gentlemen pulled the stop cord and proceeded to the front exit. All eyes were on him. The entire bus was silent. He turned slowly to look back at the elderly woman and nodded. She nodded back, blushed and looked down to find his umbrella at her side.

“Oh, you forgot your umbrella.” she said.

He smiled and said, “No, I didn’t…enjoy” as he proceeded out of the bus and into the rain, welcoming each and every drop.
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“It was not mine to begin with.” – the old man on the bus

What a wonderful statement that led me to the question. “What is really mine to begin with?”

Think about it. What is truly yours? What did you come into this world with? What will you leave with? What is not transient? What remains without change?

Consider Your Thoughts.
What thoughts are uniquely yours? Aren’t many of your thoughts given to you by others? Could you consider giving up thoughts that don’t serve you and sharing those that do?
Your Actions.
Are your habits your own or did you learn them from others? Could you let go of the bad habits and share the good ones?
Matter.
Could you begin to let go of your attachment to things? Could learn to share those things that serve you and let go of those things that don’t?
Energy.
Could you realize how much energy it takes to possess things? Could you better use that energy to live more fully in the present?
Life.
Could you begin to see the gift of life you are and share it with others?

Over time you may realize little is ever really yours, and that what matters is rarely matter.

Copyright 2007 Rob Gruber iwishicoudltellyou.com i wish i could tell you

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Six Degrees of Manifestation or The Six P’s

Six Degrees of Manifestation refers to the fact that you are a mere six degrees or steps away from manifesting anything you want in your life.

The Six Degrees of Manifestation are:

1. Be Present. The first step is to become present once again. Once again? That’s right. When you were a baby you were nothing but present. Somewhere along the way you chose to live a good part of your life in the past and future. You become present again through awareness and the exercises found throughout iwishicouldtellyou.com.

2. Pay Attention – Now that you’re present, you need to pay attention to two wonderful things, you and the world around you. Sound’s simple? Think again. That’s a lot of stuff. Here’s the trick. Stay present, observe and listen to your gut. In a present state you are more likely to determine what is best for you and worthy of your attention.

3. Place Your Intention – Placing your intention is when things really get exciting. Placing intention on a thing increases your attention on it and your connection to it. When you place attention you are literally saying “I intend on experiencing ____________.” The more you focus on something the greater the gravitational pull you will have to it and it to you. Some folks call this attraction.

4. Perceive – Once you’ve placed your intention, stay present to all the signs that point you in the right direction. The world is full of signs to guide and inspire you along your path. Signs come in many shapes, sizes and mediums. You never know where the next one will be. Eventually you will see the sign, “Here it is!”

5. Permit – Now that you have followed your heart into the world of possibilities, you must allow yourself or rather give yourself permission to have what you payed attention to, place your intention on and perceived into your world. This is the most challenging part for most people. This is the moment of truth. This is where we find out if what we wanted is what we truly wanted. Well, you’ll never know until you allow it into your life. If it’s not what you want you can always start over and manifest something else. So permit/allow and embrace that which you intended.

6. Participate, Play and Pass it on – Last but not least, experience what you have manifested fully and share it with others.

Copyright 2007 Rob Gruber Life Coach
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Test Strips 101 – A Present Moment Exercise

This is a snap shot into a process I call TEST STRIPS.

love over fear

Copyright 2007

TEST STRIPS are a quick way to evaluate where you are in the present moment in relation to where you aspire to be.

1.Choose a aspect of your life you wish to focus on and acknowledge its opposite.
2.Place the two opposing ideas across from each other on the strip like the one above.
3. Throughout the week, day or during a particular task ask yourself a question like this. From 10-1, how much ____________(The concept you wish to have) am I experiencing? From that number you will be able to determine where you are in relation to what you wish to create.
4. Decide/Focus on/Intend to move closer to your desired state or experience. (Note: Never focus on where you don’t what to be because what you focus on expands in your life.) Create intentions that state, “I wish to be more/experience more __________, and mantras that declare, “I am _________(that which you aspire to create more of)” and recite in throughout the day.
5. Ask yourself leading questions. What could I do in this moment to become more ___________? What new thoughts could I think to become more________? What thoughts/ideas could I let go of that may be holding me back from attaining more ________?
6. Think and act according to your intention and repeat this exercise regularly.

Here are few of the general concepts that my clients have created.

Love/Fear
Creating
/Consuming
Giving
/Taking
Acceptance
/Denial
Growth
/Contraction
Productive
/Unproductive
Allowing
/Resisting
Listening
/Talking
Optimistic
/Pessimistic
Wealth Consciousness
/Debt Consciousness
Abundance/Scarcity

What aspect of your life would you like to work on this week?

Copyright 2007 Rob Gruber Life Coach

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Harness the Power of Questions!

I am often asked, “What do you think?” I often reply, “You’re asking the wrong person.”

Did you know you can begin to live the life you want by asking yourself questions?

Try this technique I call “A Book of Questions.”

A Book of Questions is a series of questions created by you to challenge your current thinking patterns and habitual actions in a particular segment of your life.

Here’s an example. Before initiating a personal everyday action I often run through “A Book of Questions” that goes something like this:

Do I really want this? Will it make my life better or worse? Will this bring me closer to I want in my life? Is this in-line with my vision, goals, values and beliefs? Is there anything else I could be doing in this moment that would bring me closer to what I want to be, do and have? In essense, is this the most loving thing I can imagine doing in this moment?

An amazing aspect of “A Book of Questions” is that once you create the list of questions and incorporate them into your everyday life, your questions are answered instantly, even before they’re asked? Your brain works that fast.

During an everyday action I ask questions like these:

Am I getting the results that I want? Could I shift my thoughts or actions a bit to get better results? If I’m not getting the results I desire, would I consider stopping and choosing another action?

At the completion of an action, I ask questions like these:

Did I grow from this? Was it worth the precious moments that it took up? Would I do it again?

Start with one aspect of your life and create a series of questions that challenge you to grow based on your relationship to you and that subject.

This technique works in every aspect and situation in your life.

Socrates once said, “An unexamined life is not worth living.” While I wouldn’t go that far, I would say that an examined life is much more fulfilling.

Copyright 2007 Rob Gruber iwishicouldtellyou i wish i could tell you

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It’s a Wonder-full Life!

It’s official, there are 7 New Wonders of the world. It’s all over the news.

So I wondered…Why only seven and what was wrong with the old ones? Did they lose their wonder? Who got to decide and why wasn’t I asked?

In all this wondering, I came to the conclusion that there are an infinite number of wonders in my own little world that I witness and experience every day.

So I got out my journal and wrote at the top of a page “Seven Wonders of My World” and began writing about those things in my world that leave me with a sense of wonder and awe.

I did this every day for a week and then weekly after that. I will admit I did not follow my own direction. I didn’t stop at seven. I saw the number seven as more of a guideline.

Try this exercise to create a wonder-full life. I think it works best at the end of the day.

1.Get your journal out and write at the top of the page, “Seven Wonders of my World.”
2.Write down everything that fills you with a sense of wonder, awe, admiration, peace, joy or gratitude.
3. Do this everyday for a week and then once a week after that.

You may start off slow but once you get going you will begin to open up to the wonder of your world. Don’t take anything for granted.

To help you get started, here are a few of the things I recognized as wonders of my world.

My father’s courage to get two titanium knee replacements, his strength to undergo physical therapy and the technology behind the whole process, my mother’s ability to play 36 bingo cards and not have a nervous breakdown, my sister’s courage to work as a missionary, the simplicity and power of my Mac, the gift of waking up to a new day to live, laugh and love, my dear friend’s ability to survive her cancer, caramel coffee, the smoothness of this table and sturdiness of this chair, those who work toward peace, solar energy, the level sidewalk outside my home, organic foods, the mountains I live at the foot of, the cactus that will not die on me, my one pair of comfortable shoes, the world that keeps turning, the sun that keeps burning, the design of mass transit, electricity, rescue workers, the kindness of strangers, peace.

Now it’s your turn, what are the wonders of your world?

Copyright 2007 Rob Gruber iwishicouldtellyou i wish i could tell you