Live by a Greater How!

At the wide-eyed age of twenty, well before the Internet and armed with only a telephone book and rotary phone, I purchased my first airline ticket to fly across the country to begin interviewing for jobs after college.

Never having bought a plane ticket, I wrote down everything I thought I could possibly say or be asked.  Just when I thought I had it all under control, the young lady on the other end of the line asked me the one question I had never thought of.  “How would I like to fly?”

“I’m sorry.” I replied. “I’m not sure what you mean.”

“Would you like to fly first class or coach?” She clarified.

“Oh! I didn’t even know I had a choice.  What’s the difference?” I asked.

As she explained the seating options and the price difference for each class, the decision was quite easy for a young college student on a budget.  I chose coach.

As I hung up the phone, pleased with my first ticket buying experience, I couldn’t help but notice that there was a greater unanswered how.  That “Greater How” was the manner, quality, state or way I could choose to be and experience myself as I traveled.

Considering the “Greater How,” I opened my journal and wrote at the top of the page, “How would I like to travel?”  Within seconds, I wrote down the words effortlessly and joyfully, then comfortably and playfully.  Gratitude, appreciation and enthusiasm soon followed, along with wonder and curiosity.  Last but not least, I wrote safely.

On the day of my flight, with my “Greater How” asked and answered, I packed a few of my favorite snacks, a good book, a neck pillow, sleep mask and a couple compilations tapes for my cassette player.  Settling into my window seat, I knew I was flying in a class all my own.

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How would you like to travel through your life?  How would you like to experience yourself as you go about your life?  Could you consider the possibility that you can choose how you wish to experience life?

Copyright 2009 Rob Gruber

Present Life Mastery Coach

Imagine Love

“If I were to imagine only one thing today, it would be love.”

Imagine Love Exercise

1. Find a quiet place where you can sit comfortably and not be disturbed. Close your eyes and relax.

2. Imagine you are standing in front of someone you love with all your heart.

3. Now imagine you have the ability to express your love by giving them a gift, something they have always wanted. *

4. Imagine what you would love to give them. *

5. Choose how you would love to give them that gift. *

6. Give your gift exactly the way you imagined giving it. *

7. When you feel your giving is complete, focus once again on your breathing, gently opening your eyes when you are ready.

*Take your time with this step. You’re only limited by your imagination. The more you do this exercise the more loving and fun it will become.

Imagine Self-Love Exercise

After you feel you have mastered the Imagine Love Exercise, modify the exercise by replacing “someone you love with all your heart” in step 2 with “yourself.” Follow the remaining steps with you as the giver and receiver of your loving gift.

In essence, you are imagining yourself loving yourself with all your heart while giving yourself something you have always wanted.

Copyright 2008 Rob Gruber Present Life Mastery Coach

Live by a More Golden Rule

While having tea with a friend on her garden patio, her playful and loving orange and black tabby cat, Tig, jumped up onto the table, gently placed a lifeless little field mouse in front of me and jumped back off.

Shocked, I gasped.

My friend’s reaction was quite the opposite. She simply smiled and commented, “Awe, look. He likes you.”

“Really? He sure has a funny way of showing it.” I replied motionless.

“It’s just his way of showing you how much he loves you.” She said.

With Tig long gone, that little field mouse suddenly opened his eyes, got back on his feet and ran straight off the table, landing not so gently on the ground and scurrying into the dense foliage of the garden, never to be seen again – at least not by me.

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In a way, Tig was following the golden rule, “Do unto other as you would have done unto you.” And while I was grateful for his expression of love, I was, unfortunately, not able to fully appreciate his gift at the time.

All too often we are much like Tig, giving to others what we would want for ourselves. I call this the 14 Karat Rule, acting from our own limited preferences. While thoughtful and often appreciated, it occasionally falls short of its intended result.

A more golden rule, which I call the 18 Karat Rule, is this. “Do unto others as you would imagine they would want done unto them. In Tig’s case, with a little imagining, he may have chosen to simply climb up onto my lap, allow me to pet him and purr like there was no tomorrow.

While cats like Tig don’t have the capacity to imagine what others would want done unto them, we humans do. Possessing this capacity, we have an opportunity in each and every moment to live this rule in a more loving way.

If we were to all live by this 18 Karat Rule long enough, imagining and doing unto others what we imagine others would want done unto them, I believe we would all eventually come to the conclusion that we all want the same thing – love.

Realizing love is the answer to all our wants, an Even More Golden Rule, the 24 Karat Rule, might go like this. “Love others as you imagine they would want to be Loved.” Or simply, “Love others.”

Looking back at Tig’s gift, now, I can’t help but love him for loving me the only way he knew how.

Copyright 2008 Rob Gruber

Present Life Mastery Coach

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Claim your Presence in “The iwicty Registry”

Hello Folks,

Today I would like to announce a new collaborative page called The iwicty Registry.

It is here you will be able to claim your very presence in the here and now!

Simply click on the folder tab above marked “The iwicty Registry” and sign the registry.

Carpe Praesentium!

Sincerely,

Rob Gruber

Copyright 2008 Rob Gruber

Present Life Mastery Coach

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Create an Echo in Your Youniverse

Get more out of your affirmations with this powerful technique I call affurmations.

An affurmation is an affirmation that is redirected back to you by replacing the “I am” with a “You are.”

By directing your affirmations back to you, you activate another aspect of your being. In essence, you complete the cycle. It can feel as if you are hearing from an outside source.

To Create an Affurmation

1. Create an affirmation just the way you always have, using “I am” and stating what you wish to experience in a present tense as if you are already experiencing it is you wnat.
I am living a life of love!

2. Now, change the “I am” to “You are.”
You are living a life of love!

To Utilize Your New Affurmation

1. State your affurmation to yourself in the mirror.

2. Write down your “You are” affurmation on a piece of paper and place it wherever you will be able to see it.

3. For those who require a little privacy, encode your affurmations by writing down the first letter of each word on a small piece of paper and placing it wherever you feel the need. Post-its work great at the office.

5. If you have a supportive partner or friend, state your “I am” affirmation to them and allow them to confirm it with a “You are” affurmation.
You: I am beautiful!
Them: You are beautiful!

Do this until you believe you feel you have shifted closer toward the fulfillment of your intention.

Some Benefits

1. You will hear your affirmations in a whole other way.

2. You begin to see that which you are affirming in others.

Copyright 2008 Rob Gruber Present Life Mastery Coach

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The Next Big Thing in Communication!

Your ability to effectively communicate is paramount, hence the birth of bottom lining, the ability to express yourself succinctly.

While much has been written on bottom lining, little has been written about the ability to express what you have heard succinctly.

I call this ability, Headlining. Much like an editor that reads an article to determine its headline, you can listen to the speaker and express what you have heard in the form of a head line.

Headlining is not only efficient but fulfilling.   You not only listen for the information being conveyed but for the meaning of the communication.

The irony of this technique is that once you begin to master it and truly connect with others words are often no longer needed.

A HeadLining Exercise

1. Carry on a conversation. (Begin practicing this with those you know well, until you’ve got a hang on it.)

2. Listen to them with every fiber of your being.

3. Share with them in as few words as possible what you feel they have shared with you.

4. Listen again for feedback to determine how well you headlined.

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My Wish is My Command

“Imagination is more important than knowledge.” – Albert Einstein

“To imagine is everything, to know is nothing at all.” – Anatole France

What did these great thinkers discover about the power of imagination? I have a theory, a simple but profound one. I believe they were able to tap into the hidden and powerful nature of the word, imagine.

Did I say hidden?

Yes! Hidden within the word, imagine, right before your eyes, is an affirming and declarative sentence of your ability to create your world.

Breaking the code

Breaking down the word, first visually and then phonetically, you will find its message.

Visually: I – m – a – gi – ne

Phonetically: Im – ah – gee – nee

The Declaration: I am a Genie!

That’s right. “I am a genie!” I did say simple, but I also said profound. The profound part is found in the definition of the word, genie. A genie, according to the American Heritage Dictionary, is “a supernatural creature who does one’s bidding when summoned.”

My argument to you is that you have within you a supernatural being, call it a soul, an authentic self, your higher self or even pure genius that can be summoned to help you create the world you truly desire.

You are a genie! You create your world through your imagination. Your wish is your command.

Awaken the Genie within You!

1. Spend some time each day welcoming your newly found awareness. Say to yourself each day, “I am a Genie. My wish is my command.”

2. As you imagine, call on your Genie to aid you in making powerful and loving wishes.

3. Work with your Genie to determine what wishes are working for you and which aren’t, so that you can wish more wisely next time.

4. Never stop wishing.

A Query

What does your heart truly wish for?

Copyright 2008 Rob Gruber Life Coach

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Assistapants Unite! – We First Technology

At the end of a workshop I recently attended, one of the instructors expressed her sincerest thanks to the assistants that were occasionally asked to participate in some of the lessons, by whimsically saying, “I would also like to thank our lovely assistapants for all their wonderful assistance and participation. Thank you.”

While I realize this in not a word, I think it should be. So here’s a humble definition.

Assistapant – someone that assists another’s growth through active participation.

This is so much more that just showing up, instructing, leading or telling others what to think or do as students listen and try to imagine the implications. This is experiential learning, where teachers, assistants and students work as one to co-create an environment where everyone grows, students developing awareness and teachers and assistants developing mastery.

An Inquiry

What if you became an assistapant to those you love? What if you took a more active part in their growth and grew in the process? How would your world change? What could be possible?

Copyright 2007 Rob Gruber  Life Coach

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Become a Modern Day Alchemist

An Alchemist, in ancient times, was a philosopher and metaphysical chemist that sought to transform common metals into gold or create the elusive elixir of life.

While I have yet to transmute any common metals into actual gold or brew the elixir of life, I do consider myself a modern day alchemist and am becoming quite competent in transforming my world.

Here’s a simplified version of The Principles of Modern Day Alchemy.

1. Every thing in the universe contains its opposite, e.g., light and dark or love and hate.

2. The essence of Everything is contained in every Thing, as the poet Blake described seeing “a world in a grain of sand.”

3. You have the ability to choose what you wish to focus on.

4. What you choose to focus on, in your mind, will expand.

5. Once your level of internal focus reaches a critical mass, you will begin to look for and see evidence of it in your outer world.

6. Knowing every thing contains the essence of everything, you will now be able to see that which you are looking for in that which you are looking at.

“The modern day alchemist does not change anything into gold, but rather, sees the gold which is contained in all things.” – gruberism

May you harness these principles to transform your life!

Sincerely,
Rob Gruber

Copyright 2007 Rob Gruber Life Coach

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Create an Affirmational Commitment!

This is an excerpt from a children’s book I am writing.

“We all have a path, a path all our own.
And when it is time, it makes itself known.
If I had just told you, you would not have heard.
You would have just laughed, and then thought me absurd.”

I am sharing this with you as part of a process I have been working on with my coach to create what I call an Affirmational Commitment to complete a book I am writing.

An Affirmational Commitment is a statement that is set in the present that declares an intention to complete or experience a desired goal in an affirmative way.

The Process
1. State what you wish to experience in the future.
2. Declare that you will experience it.
3. Set a time by which you will experience it.
4. Bring your declaration into the present by shifting from “I will _______” to “I am _______ing”
5. Now, describe the nature of how you wish to experience the process using powerful adverbs. This is not a step-by-step “how to” approach but a description of the overall action or experience along the way.

My Affirmational Commitment

1. I wish to write and complete a book. (Imagining in detail what it feels like to complete a book)
2. I will complete the writing of my book.
3. I will complete the writing of my book by December 31st, 2007.
4. I am effortlessly and enthusiastically completing the writing of my book by December 31st, 2007.

Once the affirmational commitment is created, refer to it as often as possible. Let it become a part of you. Let it sink into you very being.

You will notice that I don’t get lost in the step-by-step details of how I am going to complete the writing of my book.

A Confession
I don’t know exactly how I am going to do this.

The Truth
I don’t need to know exactly how. The how will reveal itself along the way, that’s how “hows” work.

An Inquiry
What if a commitment is not met?

An Answer
There is learning and growth in everything. If I don’t meet my commitment, then there is something very valuable to experience, learn and grow from.

“Remember it’s the journey not the destination. Without destinations we will never begin our journeys. There is nothing wrong with changing course. Sometimes that is the wisest and most courageous thing to do.” – Gruberism

Copyright 2007 Rob Gruber Co-Active Coach

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Wake Up and Smell the Coffee

I was having a wonderful conversation with a colleague over coffee about coffee, something we both dearly love and attempt to give up from time to time, when she shared with me something quite profound. With sincerity and joy, she looked me in the eye and said, “I’ve spent the last thirty years of my life playing around with my coffee, only to find I like it best black.”

I chuckled and replied. “Congratulations.” We raised our cups to each other, sipped our selective brews and then I respectfully inquired. “Why’d it take so long?”

She sincerely replied. “Social Conditioning. I was taught from a very early age to always want more and never be satisfied, that the status quo was “a status no.” On my quest for the perfect cup, I have ordered every drink on every menu and modified them whenever I could, priding myself on being high maintenance. When I couldn’t get them to modify it, I added sugar, cinnamon, or nutmeg. You name it. I did it. I was never satisfied, until last week, when a coworker of mine went on a coffee run for the office and mistakenly handed me the wrong cup. I took a sip of what I thought was my coffee and, to my surprise, found exactly what I was looking for all those years, a simple cup of hot, black coffee.”

“All that from a cup of coffee?” I asked.

“All that and more,” she proclaimed. “Realizing my quest for the perfect cup was just the tip of the iceberg. I took a personal inventory of all my predominant thoughts and discovered that many of my resistant thoughts were given to me by society. Wanting to live my own life and have my own unique thoughts, I now make a conscious effort to stay present, listen to my heart and see things for what they truly are instead of how others have led me to see them, recreating myself in each and every moment. I thought it would be hard, but once I got into it, I couldn’t stop. Now, I can’t imagine living any other way.

Copyright 2007 Rob Gruber Co-Active Life and Wisdom Coach
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Live a Life of Ease. Choose Your Path of Least Resistance.

When I first moved to New York City, I did what most artists do. I sublet an apartment. In the first three years, I moved a total of 6 times until I found the neighborhood I would eventually call home, Hell’s Kitchen.

The first couple of moves were effortless. I packed up my duffel bag and hopped on the subway. But by the sixth and final move, I had to borrow a buddy’s truck.

When I pulled up to my new place, I was filled with excitement. But by the second climb up the four flights of stairs with my arms full, I began to question if I really needed any of this stuff.

About halfway through the move, a kid that was sitting on the stoop watching me move, spoke up and said. “You know you don’t have to take the stairs, right?”

“How else am I going to get all that stuff up there?” I asked.

“There’s an old elevator way in the back.” He said. “It’s real scary, but it works. My mom won’t let me use it, but the old man on the third floor does when he buys groceries.”

“Really? Why didn’t you tell me sooner?” I asked.

“I thought you knew, but then I thought maybe you didn’t,” he replied.

Embarrassed but grateful, I thanked the kid, patted him on the back and moved the rest of my stuff into my new place.

The kid was right, that was one scary elevator, and I never used it after that day.

I lived there for three wonderful years. When I did move, I packed up two duffel bags and gave the rest away, making my next move effortless once again.

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“You don’t have to take the stairs.” – Gruberism

I believe that many of us take “the stairs of life” when we don’t have to.

What do I mean by “the stairs of life?”

“The stairs of life” is the hard way. The belief that we must toil, suffer and sacrifice to acquire, accomplish and deserve what we want.

I am here to tell you that you don’t have to take the stairs of life. There is an easier way, a path of least resistance that is uniquely yours.

You will begin to realize this once you begin asking yourself this very simple question.
What would be the easiest way for me to accomplish this goal?

Here are a few additional suggestions that may help you along your path.

1. Stay present, focused and positive.
2. Recognize your ability to create a path of least resistance.
3. Consider any and all possibilities, asking “what if” questions.
4. Leverage your strengths, talents and skills.
4. Utilize every aid that becomes available to you.
5. Ask for help, from the universe and others.
6. Continually monitor and adjust your thoughts, emotions and actions toward ease.
7. Be open to adjust or change your path when it no longer serves you.

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Copyright 2007 Rob Gruber Life Coach

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End Rejection Now!

“Life is a Selection Process, not a Rejection Process.” – Gruberism

When you woke up today, did you think to yourself, “I’m going to reject my way to what I want?” At the restaurant you last ate at, did you purposely reject everything on the menu before you chose what you wanted? Of course not, that’s not what you do.

You, by your very nature, are a selector of things, not a rejecter of things. From the day you were born to the day you die, you will actively select, not reject, those things you believe are best for you.

And while you are out in the world making your selections, the rest of the world is doing the same thing, selecting, not rejecting, things they think will bring them happiness.

With all this selecting going on, where is that stinging rejection? It’s not there, because it never took place. It couldn’t because we were all too busy selecting our next greatest thing.

Then what is that awful feeling we call rejection? It’s your ego, kicking and screaming, wanting to get its own way and feeling threatened when it doesn’t. Your ego wants to have its cake and eat it too by not only controlling your selections but the selections of others.

And while I’ll acknowledge that the ego is only doing what it thinks is best, it doesn’t serve you in this situation. Because the ego can’t control anything outside itself and when it attempts to do so and fails, you experience the pain we call rejection.

To stop the pain of rejection, we must recognize the following:

1.We are, by our very nature, a selector of things not a rejecter of things.
2.Nothing, including you, is ever actively rejected, but rather simply not selected.
3.We can’t control the selections of others.
4. Any need or attempt to control another can lead to great pain.

To stay in a state of natural selection:

1.Celebrate your ability to freely select what you believe is right for you.
2.Allow others to freely select what they believe is right for them.
3.When you feel the ego creeping in, take control of your situation and remind yourself that rejection is only a state of mind, a state you have control over.

Copyright 2007 Rob Gruber Life Coach

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What You Focus on Expands – PART 1

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Expansion Theory via Travel Log

5:30 a.m. My cell phone alarm goes off. Despite the early hour, I awake feeling well rested.  (I’ve just spent the last two days living on the south rim of the Grand Canyon with my better-half Kristy and now we’re off to Sedona.)

5:45 a.m. I begin packing up the car under the starry night sky as Kristy checks us out of the Bright Angel Lodge.

6:00 a.m. The sun, eight minutes from rising, slowly brightens the morning sky. I do one last check to see if I’ve dropped anything while packing in the dark.

6:08 a.m. – Sunrise. The first rays of light break over the East Rim. We get into our car, look over our TripTik and begin the second leg of our journey.

6:15 a.m. Following the signs out of the canyon, I slowly turn left onto a one way road. Just then, Kristy yells, “Stop!”

Thinking I took a wrong turn, I stop the car and ask her, “What? What is it?”

With her eyes open as wide as I’ve ever seen them, she says “Look.”

I turn and look but don’t see anything.

“Right there.” She says, “See? a baby deer,” pointing just over the right corner of the car.

I look again and suddenly it appears, like magic, a baby deer standing on the side of the road. It literally appears before my eyes, like one of those three-dimensional objects that are hidden in abstract posters sold at novelty shops. One minute I couldn’t see it and the next minute I could. Maybe because I was too used to looking at road signs, but once I did, it was as clear as day. In that very moment I became acutely aware of what deer look like along the side of the road amongst the tall grass and trees at sunrise.

Kristy, now looking for its mother, taps me and whispers. “Look, there. The mother!”

Now knowing what to look for, I immediately see the mother patiently waiting for her baby to cross the road. Not seeing us as a threat, the baby deer dashes across the road and into a small clearing.

As it stops in the clearing, something even more amazing happens. Kristy and I begin to see deer after deer appear before us. And I do mean appear, as if from out of nowhere. They slowly materialize in front of us.

Now, I do realize that deer just don’t appear and that they must have been there all along, but I also believe that if it wasn’t for our close encounter and intimate connection with this little baby dear, we wouldn’t have had developed the ability to see or focus on the rest of the herd grazing amongst the tall grass and trees.

How did we develop the ability to see the rest of the herd? Through Expansion Theory.

As we focused on this little baby dear, our ability to see similar images increased (or expanded) which allowed us to see the mother and then finally, the herd.

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What will you focus on today?

Copyright 2007 Rob Gruber Life Coach

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Test Strips 101 – A Present Moment Exercise

This is a snap shot into a process I call TEST STRIPS.

love over fear

Copyright 2007

TEST STRIPS are a quick way to evaluate where you are in the present moment in relation to where you aspire to be.

1.Choose a aspect of your life you wish to focus on and acknowledge its opposite.
2.Place the two opposing ideas across from each other on the strip like the one above.
3. Throughout the week, day or during a particular task ask yourself a question like this. From 10-1, how much ____________(The concept you wish to have) am I experiencing? From that number you will be able to determine where you are in relation to what you wish to create.
4. Decide/Focus on/Intend to move closer to your desired state or experience. (Note: Never focus on where you don’t what to be because what you focus on expands in your life.) Create intentions that state, “I wish to be more/experience more __________, and mantras that declare, “I am _________(that which you aspire to create more of)” and recite in throughout the day.
5. Ask yourself leading questions. What could I do in this moment to become more ___________? What new thoughts could I think to become more________? What thoughts/ideas could I let go of that may be holding me back from attaining more ________?
6. Think and act according to your intention and repeat this exercise regularly.

Here are few of the general concepts that my clients have created.

Love/Fear
Creating
/Consuming
Giving
/Taking
Acceptance
/Denial
Growth
/Contraction
Productive
/Unproductive
Allowing
/Resisting
Listening
/Talking
Optimistic
/Pessimistic
Wealth Consciousness
/Debt Consciousness
Abundance/Scarcity

What aspect of your life would you like to work on this week?

Copyright 2007 Rob Gruber Life Coach

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Harness the Power of Questions!

I am often asked, “What do you think?” I often reply, “You’re asking the wrong person.”

Did you know you can begin to live the life you want by asking yourself questions?

Try this technique I call “A Book of Questions.”

A Book of Questions is a series of questions created by you to challenge your current thinking patterns and habitual actions in a particular segment of your life.

Here’s an example. Before initiating a personal everyday action I often run through “A Book of Questions” that goes something like this:

Do I really want this? Will it make my life better or worse? Will this bring me closer to I want in my life? Is this in-line with my vision, goals, values and beliefs? Is there anything else I could be doing in this moment that would bring me closer to what I want to be, do and have? In essense, is this the most loving thing I can imagine doing in this moment?

An amazing aspect of “A Book of Questions” is that once you create the list of questions and incorporate them into your everyday life, your questions are answered instantly, even before they’re asked? Your brain works that fast.

During an everyday action I ask questions like these:

Am I getting the results that I want? Could I shift my thoughts or actions a bit to get better results? If I’m not getting the results I desire, would I consider stopping and choosing another action?

At the completion of an action, I ask questions like these:

Did I grow from this? Was it worth the precious moments that it took up? Would I do it again?

Start with one aspect of your life and create a series of questions that challenge you to grow based on your relationship to you and that subject.

This technique works in every aspect and situation in your life.

Socrates once said, “An unexamined life is not worth living.” While I wouldn’t go that far, I would say that an examined life is much more fulfilling.

Copyright 2007 Rob Gruber iwishicouldtellyou i wish i could tell you

Live a Catch-and-Release Life!

On a recent trip home to Ohio, I had the rare opportunity to go fishing with five of my nephews, ranging in age from 4 to 10, and my father, who shall remain ageless.

As we pulled up to the pond and parked the car, the boys got out and ran ahead with their gear. I stayed close to my father, reminding him to lift his feet, as we gingerly walked around the edge of the pond to “the spot” where the boys were already casting their reels.

By the time we sat down on the old wooden bench that held more stories than all of us combined, the first fish was caught. It was a beautiful little bluegill, and as gracefully as it was caught is was just as quickly and gently released back into the pond to swim another day.

There was no lull in the catching of fish that day. They made it look so easy. I asked the youngest what his secret was to catching so many fish. I had no idea he was so wise.

He leaned in and whispered to me like a father to a son and said, “First you have to find a good place to fish. Second, use good bait. We use hot dogs. Three, pay attention to your line, when it moves you’ve got a bite. Four, catch the fish and then let it go gently.”

“You mean you never take one home and eat it?” I asked.

He looked at me like I was an idiot and said, “No. This is a catch-and-release pond. We catch them and then release them so that we can fish again tomorrow and tomorrow and the tomorrow after that.”

Catch-and-Release, huh? Sounds like a great idea for fishing and life.

What if you lived a Catch-and-release life?

Catch-and-Release this.

1. “Find a good place” to be you – Everybody has a place in this world. You’ll find that place through trial and error, self-awareness and self-acceptance. Where you currently feel you are at your best, both physically and emotionally, is a good place to start.

2. Use the right bait! – The bait in life is thought/intention. Think powerful and positive thoughts and you will create powerful positive intentions.

3. “Pay Attention to your line” of thought – Stay present and don’t miss a bite/moment. If you’re not getting the bites/results you want, you need to change your thinking.

4. “Catch each present moment and then gently let it go.” – Catch everything that bites and adjust accordingly. Release the good as well as the bad. Don’t worry about releasing the good bites. The good bites will lead you to even better bites.

What do you think?

Copyright 2007 Rob Gruber iwishicouldtellyou i wish i could tell you

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Celebrate Your Life in Every Moment!

“It was my birthday last week and I haven’t stopped celebrating.” – gruberism

I remember the first time someone asked me the question “How many birthdays does the average man have?” Not knowing it was a riddle, I thought long and hard and guessed 76. I was wrong, of course, because the average man has only one birthday. He may celebrate his birthday 76 times in his life but he is only born once.

Then I thought to myself, a man that lives 76 years celebrates the miracle of his life only 76 times in his 76 years or 27,758 days. I don’t know about you, but that doesn’t seem like enough celebrating to me. To make things worse, we don’t remember the first few and are taught by society to not look forward to celebrating our birthday in the later half of our lives.

If you ask me, 1 out 365.25 is not near enough!

Wake up and taste the icing! It is estimated that someone dies every ten seconds in this world. Are you next? Am I? Now I’m not a fortuneteller, so I can’t tell you when my time is up. I can’t tell you if I have ten seconds or tens of years left. What I can tell you is that my time is precious and each moment I am given is a gift worth celebrating and I choose to celebrate the miracle of my life by staying as present as possible in each and every moment I am given.

Celebrate your life in each and every moment! And while you’re at it, celebrate everyone else’s life you come in contact with, because you’ll never know when their last moment will be.

I celebrate life by striving to stay as present as possible, love unconditionally, listen intently and give sincere thanks for everything.

How can you celebrate your life in this moment?

Copyright 2007 Rob Gruber iwishicouldtellyou.com i wish i could tell you

Visually Sculpt the Life You Want

I was recently working with a sculptor that wanted to drastically change how he created his art. No matter how hard he tried, he kept going back to his old way of doing things. During one of our conversations, he mentioned his concern that others would not be able to recognize his new works as his.

I remarked, “I think you might be afraid you won’t able to recognize them as yours.”

He smiled, laughed and said, “Maybe…maybe.”

From that day on, I had him imagine in great detail his art space filled with all the new pieces he had yet to sculpt, the colors, the sizes, the lighting, the lines of the pieces and the people that would come to purchase his work.

A week later he called to say, “I guess I just needed to “see” it with my own eyes in its entirety”

Visualization is a wonderful tool that can…

Open many doors and windows of creativity.
Nurture your budding desires.
Help you develop a knowing it can be done.
“Reinstill” your ability to create your life.

There are numerous books on visualization and numerous ways to visualize.

Here’s one way to visualize:

1) Determine what you wish to be, do, have or create.

2) Find a quiet place to sit or recline, close your eyes and find a comfortable breathing pattern.
3) Imagine each breath out is releasing tension and each breath in is filled with light.
4) Imagine yourself surrounded by light.
5) Now begin to create vibrant, positive and moving images that envelop you. Experience in the great detail what you want.
6) When you feel you have fully experienced what you came to experience allow yourself to be surrounded by light again.
7) Slowly focus back on your breathing, gently open your eyes and begin again to pursue that which you want.

When you can see it in your mind it’s no longer way out there and untouchable. It’s not so intimidating. You’ve been there and done that in your mind. It’s now possible and attainable. You simply have to take the necessary steps toward achieving it. If you’ve creating a compelling enough visualization then it’s just a matter of time.

Copyright 2007 Rob Gruber iwishicouldtellyou.com

Create a Compelling Future!

There are numerous studies that show that goal setting works, but few people actually set goals. Why is this? One response, or excuse, I often get from my clients is that they don’t know where to start.

Today I would like to turn goal setting on its head and start at its very end.

Whether we like to think about it or not, we are all going to die someday – the later the better, of course. Upon our death, someone will write an obituary, a notice of death that will include a biography of your life.

What would your obituary say?

What if you could write your own obituary?

Today, I would like you to do just that and create a probituary. A probituary is an obituary written by you detailing every amazing and significant thing you will have accomplished or experienced in your life.

1) Open your journal and write down at the top of the page. “My current probituary”
2) Write in detail everything you wish to be, do and have before you die in autobiographical form. Describe how you lived, how you loved, how others loved you, the millions of people you positively touched, the family and life you created, the places you visited and the wealth you created. Did you have an estate, a collection of cars or a foundation? Were you an educator, an entrepreneur, an accomplished artist, a philanthropist and/or a loving parent? Did you find a cure for diabetes or cancer? How did you positively change the world? Did you lose that weight, change and/or grow? Did you give up your addictions? This is not a time to be humble, simple or modest. Think big. Dream big. See it. Feel it. Get emotional. Proclaim, exclaim, sing, shout and announce what you have accomplished.
3) Now, write down what others will write about you. Did the president seek you out fro advice or Oprah praise your endeavors? Did your family cherish every moment you were here? Will there be a day set aside to honor the contributions you made to the world? Were loved ones reunited? Write down their testimonials.
4) Make a list of all the things you accomplished in your probitaury.
5) With this compelling list, write down your short and long-range goals. Ask yourself, “What can I do in this moment, this day, this week and this year to fulfill each of these goals?
6) Once a series of action steps are created, stay present and open to the signs that will lead you to the fulfillment of each and every goal. Monitor your progress and always be grateful for each moment given to you to reach your goals.
7) Revisit or recreate your probituary whenever you feel the need.

Copyright 2007 Rob Gruber iwishicouldtellyou.com i wish i could tell you

Become a Permanent Tourist!

“If you’re not having the time of your life, whose time are you having?”

A buddy of mine, who felt he needed a vacation, went on a trip for four days. When he got back, he told me he had the time of his life and felt like a whole new person. A week later, he was back to his “poor me” self.

So I ask you this question. What changed?

My friend had. On his vacation he decided to have a good time and experience life to the fullest.

Oxford American Dictionaries defines a tourist as “a person who is traveling or visiting a place for pleasure.” That’s what my friend was – a person, traveling and seeking pleasure.

Now, let me ask you a second question. Aren’t we all people, traveling from here to there every day, desiring pleasure in our lives? YES! Then wouldn’t that make us all tourists all of the time? YES! And being tourists all of the time, shouldn’t we be seeking (allowing) pleasure all of the time? YES!

So, today, I have the great honor of declaring this and every day, Permanent Tourist’s Day, to be celebrated by you and everyone you know.

Permanent Tourist’s Day is celebrated by the following:

1) Intend on having a good time.
2) Desire to experience new things.
3) Be optimistically ready for anything.
4) Live in the positively present moment.

Copyright 2007 Rob Gruber  iwishicouldtellyou.com   i wish i could tell you