The phone rang. It was my sister, 3000 miles away, telling me that our mother was rushed to the hospital. As she shared with me the news of her condition, I hung on her every word. But as soon as I hung up, my emotions overtook me. I wanted it to be different. I wanted everything to be different, and the more I wanted it to be different, the more I suffered.
Realizing I was the maker of my own suffering, a suffering that was of no service to my mother or myself, I did the one thing I hoped I would never have to do. I accepted the fact that my mother was in need of critical care and I could do nothing to change that fact in this very moment.
As I slowly moved into acceptance, the most remarkable thing happened. My emotions gently subsided and I became present once again. In my newly found present state, I was not only able accept what was happening in the moment but was also able to consider what could be in the next. I did this by asking myself a very simple but powerful question. “Accepting what is, what is the most loving thing I could do now?”
Before I could even finish asking the question, the answer came forth from deep within my heart. “Go to her! Love her! Be there for her! Now!” And within minutes I was booked on the next available flight home.
Copyright 2008 Rob Gruber
Present Life Mastery Coach