Run Barefoot on the Grass!

If I were to ask you to finish the statement, “The grass is always greener,” you would mostly likely answer “on the other side of the fence.” Am I right?

Now, how did I know that? Could it be that I, like you, have accepted this seemingly harmless idiom as true, made it a part of my belief system, and am now able to rattle it off whenever called to do so? Well, yeah. That’s exactly how I did it.

Unfortunately, this widely accepted idiom is wrong. The grass, a metaphor for life, is not, nor ever will be, greener on the other side. “The grass is always greener under your feet.”

The reason I say this is because the grass you are standing on is where you are now, and where you are now is where you are able to grow, love and experience life.

That grass on the other side can’t offer that. It is but a reflection of light we have been misled to believe is greater that us and that is simply not true. Making it, in my opinion, a lighter shade of green.

So run barefoot on the grass and know that it’s always greener under your feet.


A Present Moment Exercise – Questioning Beliefs

1. Monitor your thoughts and language throughout the week.
2. Catch yourself when you begin to express beliefs that require little thought or effort to express.
3. Take a moment to ask yourself the following questions:
Did I create this belief or was it given to me by society?
Is it true or false?
If it’s false, could I create a new, better and more loving belief to replace the old one?

I realize questioning your beliefs may feel a bit uncomfortable at first, but I assure “an unexamined idiom is not worth living.” gruberism

Expansion – A Present Moment Exercise and Game

Expansion is a present moment exercise in the form of a single-player game where you, the player, cannot lose!

Working off the premise that what you focus on expands, the object of the game is to reside in the present as much as possible by increasing your awareness of it.

The Rules.

1. Begin by creating a strip of three connected boxes labeled Past, Present and Future respectively. (As shown below.)

2. Throughout your day, on the hour or half-hour and whenever you feel a shift of awareness, record where you just were in that moment by placing a check in the box it applies to.

3. At the end of the day tally up your scores.

4. Divide the total number of check marks in each section with the total of check marks for the three sections combined to get a percentage score for each box.

5. Adjust the size of your boxes in length according to their percentages for the next day. For those of you who are into graphs, your favorite spreadsheet program’s graphs can be a fun way to do this.  (At first, your present moment box may be quite small. That is perfectly natural and expected, being present is not something most of us consciously aspire to be, but once become aware the power of your present moments your score will significantly increase.)

6. The goal, of course, is to increase your present moment score each time you play.

Supplemental Exercises

1. Journal what you are discovering about being present.

2. Visualize, each morning,  your “present” section expanding and becoming a significant portion of your day.

A Special Note to Hard-Core Gamers:

Do not judge, reward or punish yourself for your scores! Simply become aware of the quality of your life as you become more and more present.

Copyright 2008 Rob Gruber
Present Life Mastery Coach

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Reside in the Present!

If you were to ask a Realtor, “What are the three most important factors in determining the best place to live? He would reply without batting an eye, “location, location, location.”

Imagining the past, present and future as places you could reside, this tried and true answer could just as well be applied to the question of time.

Expanding on the Real Estate metaphor, the chart below highlights a few of the amenities you may consider important to you and where they can be found.

I realize a few of these factors will reference the past or future but the actual action or process takes place in the present.

So, where would you wish to reside?

Copyright 2008 Rob Gruber
Present Life Mastery Coach
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